I was watching an interesting TED Talk on YouTube the other day. The presenter, a behavioral psychologist, asked the audience to quickly, without thinking, point to themselves and hold the pose. Then he asked them which part of their body they were pointing at. It turned out that just about the entire audience was pointing at their hearts. The idea was to show that most people believe that who they are resides in their heart – we feel our way to ourselves, we don’t think our way to ourselves.
A few months ago we did a practice around the three Soul Questions: Who Am I? What do I want? What is my Dharma? I think we did a pretty good job on the first question : Who Am I? We dove really deep, connecting with our authentic selves and shedding our beliefs about who we are on a cultural level. However, there is another way to get to know the You that you are. I call it the “Finding My Best Self” questionnaire.
Pretend you are filling out one of those online dating service surveys. You want that perfect person out there to know all about you, so you tell them everything you know about yourself … so, what DO you know about yourself? What’s your favorite color? Your favorite food? Your favorite song or singer? Do you like sports? Which ones? What’s your favorite team? Do you like to be outdoors? Beach or cabin in the woods? What is your favorite season? Why? Who is your favorite author? Do you like to make things? What? Why?
Do you see where I’m going with this? How often have you ever taken a step back and really gotten to know yourself? You are the one person you will be spending your entire life with. Get to know your true BFF and see if the answers to those questions shine a brighter light on the answer to the Soul Question: “Who Am I?” I’ll bet you find out that you are a more interesting and talented person than you gave yourself credit for. Who knows? Maybe you’ll remember that you really do like baseball … so why not treat yourself to a game? Sit in the stands and cheer for your team! When was the last time you went to the beach? Have a BFF day and go dig your toes in the sand.
The things we like and the things we do evoke certain feelings. That’s why we like or do them. We feel our way to ourselves, we don’t think our way to ourselves. So the next time someone asks you, “Who are you,” you can smile and tell them: “Oh, I am the most interesting and wonderful person you will ever meet!”
You guessed it! Our writing assignment on the Home Page could be called: “Getting To Know You,” just like the title of the song. As always have fun with it!
Peace and blessings.