Second Chances

Remember when you were a kid, playing a game with your friends, and someone would yell, “Do Over?” That meant that the one who called it out wanted another turn, a second chance. Maybe he dropped the ball, or maybe someone interfered with his ability to follow through on his chance to move forward. Maybe the rules weren’t clear and he wanted another chance to understand how the game was played.

The same idea holds true when it comes to creating our authentic life. When we first started out on this journey, we obeyed all the rules laid out for us by society, our parents and out culture. We thought we knew how the game was played. Then as we got older and went out into the world, we discovered, much to our dismay, that “they” kept changing the rules on you. What was okay one day was taboo the next. “Follow Your Dream” was okay as long as it didn’t challenge the accepted norms and didn’t rock anyone’s boat … and, of course, you had to make money at it or it wasn’t real. Now that we’ve reached that stage of our lives when we’re finally ready to challenge those old rules and beliefs, it’s time for us to call “Do Over!”

In my new ebook: “Second Chances:  Lessons In Wisdom From A Life Well Lived,” I take a look at several different areas in our lives where we can “do it over.” Maybe you want to go back to school, or take up something artistic. Maybe you want to redefine your take on love and marriage, or step onto a different spiritual path. Whatever you did in the past is done and gone. We can all choose to take a “do-over.”

Writing can help us to clarify where and how we want to use this second chance. When we put our ideas and dreams down on paper, they become real for us, but first we have to acknowledge what we did before that didn’t work, or what we didn’t do but wish we had. That, too, becomes more crystal clear when we read it back in our own words. Never forget the cardinal rule of this website: Words Have Power. If you don’t already do so, I invite you to start keeping a journal. I know many of you already do, and some of you keep several, like a gratitude journal, and an affirmation journal, etc. I would suggest that you can write your list of affirmations and things you are grateful for right in your regular daily journal. At the end of my journal entry every morning, I list my affirmations for the day as well as five things I am grateful for. I like having everything I am thinking and feeling about the day ahead all together.

Having said that, I would also suggest that you keep a separate notebook for the things we are talking about here and your writing assignments. One of those nice, five subject spiral notebooks works fine. Keeping all your work together so that you can look back at it as you go along helps you to notice patterns that emerge, or see limiting beliefs that have been holding your back. It also gives you a place to see your new, authentic life unfolding before your eyes.

These are only suggestions. It matters less how you do it than that you try. Give it your best and it will give the same back to you!

Blessings and peace!

P.S. Don’t forget to download your copy of “Second Chances: Lessons In Wisdom From A Life Well Lived,” by clicking on the link below that will take you to Amazon Kindle. If you don’t have a Kindle, Amazon offers a free reading app that you can download to your laptop or other device. Happy Do-Overs!


5 thoughts on “Second Chances

  1. As someone who has come to learn and believe that we are constantly rewriting our life story, I love how you related this to our childhood days, Barb. Being able to say “Do Over” when we wanted another chance, seemed so natural when we were kids. Nothing was permanent and nothing seemed written in stone the way we adults often adopt our current life situations. We felt freer to make up the rules as we went along. Thanks for the writing exercise and also the reminder that we are the authors of our own life. I like to say that ‘life is a work of art’ and that we are constantly adding new colours and new layers to the canvas.


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